Several years ago while I was doing my NYSC in Rivers, I had this little bit older lady crushing on me. I had met her while working as an INEC ad hoc staff and she was really nice. Because I was such a guy who was always busy at work and leisure, I didn't really notice how deep in love this lady was. I thought we were just ordinary friends.
Few weeks into our friendship, and after visiting her several weekends and having very nice social times with her little family (she lived with her cousin brother), she insisted on visiting me in company of her cousin brother. I obliged. But to my utter surprise, she showed up alone at the Corpers' Lodge. It was around 6 pm.
Once we got in my room and talked for a while, she was all over me, breathing hard. I was shocked and a little perplexed. Not to act like a "Jew man" I had to respond to her kisses but held back my hands. Hers were already wandering nervously around my back and then down my zippers.
I told her "No please we can't do this, I'm really sorry"...
She thought it was a big evening joke but I insisted. I explained to her that we were merely friends and, also, she should recall that she once told me that she's engaged to a certain guy. How on earth am I supposed to make out with an engaged lady? That was gross to me. She was really upset and disappointed and later left angry and sad.
The second time I experienced something similar was about 3 years ago when I came in contact (at my workplace ) with one very beautiful 19 year old girl. Something in me just accepted her personality as someone who has a lot of potential in her newest future. Yes I had a steady girlfriend so sex wasn't my motive with my girlfriends.
Because of this teenager's quest for tertiary education, and also because I noticed that she saw me as a role model professionally, I vowed that I wasn't gonna be amongst that stupid category of guys who feel like they must take advantage of any girl they mentor or help. I already had a very active sex life with my then girlfriend (who was a tigress in bed).
I spent some cash on this girl to procure JAMB UME forms, get a few books (she was really the studious type). In no time she started visiting my apartment. Am this type of guy that had a very mature co-educational social experience and so handling girlfriends were just as neutral to me as handling my male friends. This was one aspect of me my girlfriend found complicated.
However, the frequency of this girl's visit tripled I had to turn down a lot of her requests to visit. It wasn't long before she started literally asking me to date her, to which I told her I wasn't her friend for sexual reasons but that I just wanted to be of help to her because I was once in her shoes of need. I wanted her in my favorites contact list.
To cut this long story short, I found this girl waiting- unannounced- at my gate on coming back from my office one Friday evening. Of course she apologized for not calling and for coming this late. We got in, I left her in my sitting room and went in to bath and change (my usual routine).
After bathing I found this girl in my bed! So I started preaching again like another holy mallam, explaining to her that we should keep the status quo, I didn't want issues or to be perceived as taking sexual advantage of a very young girl who should be studying for her UME examinations. But all my talks ended in deaf ears, cos she just walked up to me, started kissing me and taking off her blouse. I just shouted "no!", left her in my room and went to my sitting room. She later came out crying seriously that she loves me and wants to be with me. It sounded Greek to me, seriously.
Well that evening was really challenging because she simply could not believe that I would refuse to sleep with her. As beautiful as she was. And as sexually virile as I was too.
The other similar incidents I've had weren't that close as these cases I narrated above, and they keep me wondering all the time how exactly do
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